Boys will be boys and this is usually true for most of the men. According to several surveys, a great number of women feels that they are a parent to their partners apart from being a parent to their children. In most of the cases women feel they lack their husband’s support and this is the reason why they feel stressed out on a daily basis.
Women find marriage as demanding as motherhood and according to research an average mom rates her stress levels an 8.5 out of 10, and even 46% of the women involved in the study reported that their husbands are causing more stress than their children!
This is the summary of the findings:
- Three in every four mothers with partners claim that they are doing most of the parenting duties and household chores.
- One in every five mothers claims that the biggest cause of stress is the lack of support and help from her husband.
- Most of the mothers involved in the study claimed that stress comes as a result of the insufficient time they got to do everything that has to be done at home.
In addition, researchers from the University of Padova found a very interesting finding: Namely, after the death of their wives, the health of husbands deteriorates. In contrary, when women lose their husbands, they become healthier and cope with stress and depression easier than they did before. In conclusion, men rely more heavily on their wives than vice versa.
To solve these issues, and reduce stress, there are more things that can help:
-There must be an equal division of responsibilities between partners. Both of them should participate in homework duties, organizing events or doctor appointments. You can make a shared calendar or to-do-lists.
-In some cases though, men dream of being the best husband and father, but their wives do not have enough trust in them to give them important responsibilities. Some women are accustomed to do all by themselves. However, they should let their partners make their contribution.
– A lot of married couples neglect their relationship and mainly focus on parenthood, which is a huge mistake.
Remember that you are partners and you are individuals too, so make sure you spend some time alone. You need to keep this connection strong in order to have a strong basis of your family.